Discipline Without Damage
How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up
Almost every parent has turned to popular behavior-control tactics to address their children’s meltdowns. However, celebrated psychologist Dr. Vanessa Lapointe warns that not only are the most-championed discipline methods ineffective, they are damaging our children when they are most vulnerable. In her provocative and groundbreaking book, Discipline Without Damage, Dr. Vanessa unpacks the science behind child brain development, and explains exactly what children need from their “big people” to grow up in the best possible way.

Published by LifeTree Media, an imprint of Wonderwell
Release Date: January 12, 2016
Available in paperback, ebook, and audiobook
256 pages
$23.99 CAD / $15.99 USD
Discover a new connection-based approach to discipline
In Discipline Without Damage, you’ll learn:
- What’s really happening inside your child during a timeout
- The “See it, Feel it, Be it” approach that will help you instinctively navigate challenging moments with ease
- The nine stepping stones to damage-free discipline in the heat of the moment
- The importance of the “Hulk swagger”—and how to get yours on
- How to help your child grow into a healthier, happier, and more resilient adult
Dr. Vanessa Lapointe
Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is the author of the bestselling Discipline Without Damage and award-winning Parenting Right From the Start. A registered psychologist, she is also the founder of The Wishing Star Lapointe Developmental Clinic. She has supported families and children for more than fifteen years and is a sought-after lecturer. She lives in Vancouver, Canada, with her partner and two sons.
Praise for Discipline Without Damage
“Discipline Without Damage is one of the best parenting books I have read in years. I think it can change the world!”
Dr. Laura Markham, PhD, founder of AHAparenting.com
“In this eloquent book, Dr. Lapointe makes a powerful case for disciplining our children without power struggles, manipulation or control. An insightful guide for all parents!”
Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD, author of the New York Times bestselling book The Conscious Parent
“I love this book! A rare combination of science-based, practical, respectful, and effective discipline.”
Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, co-author of New York Times bestselling books The Whole-Brain Child and No-Drama Discipline
“In Discipline Without Damage, Dr. Vanessa Lapointe explores the important question of why we discipline rather than just how. We need to question the notion that the only way to raise happy, capable and caring future adults is to punish children when they don’t behave according to our wishes. In fact, by showing that children really need kindness, fairness and a caring, safe environment, Dr. Lapointe has created a trustworthy resource for parents.”
Maggie Dent, author of 9 Things: A Back-to-Basics Guide to Calm, Common-sense, Connected Parenting Birth-8
“Dr. Lapointe has given parents, family members and the professionals who work with them a wonderful gift. Discipline without Damage should be required reading for us all. Written from a deep pool of experience and knowledge, this practical book helps us understand what children need to thrive.”
Dana Brynelsen, OBC, LLD, Provincial advisor, Infant Development Program of BC
Press, Awards, and More
Wonderwell Titles Selected as 2020 Nautilus Book Award Winners
The Nautilus Book Awards have announced their 2020 list of winners. We’re proud to share that our titles are among the gold and silver award recipients.
Parenting Right From the Start Wins a Silver IBPA Benjamin Franklin Award
Parenting Right From the Start by Dr. Vanessa Lapointe has won a silver award in the parenting & family category in the 32nd annual IBPA Benjamin Franklin Awards!
Dr. Vanessa Lapointe interviewed on CTV Morning Vancouver
Dr. Vanessa Lapointe, author of Parenting Right From the Start, joins CTV News Vancouver and answers questions on how to keep kids busy and what to do about boredom.
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